A parent, a child, a friend, a workmate, a boss can all be guilty of phubbing. And most of the time the phubbing is not even deliberate.
It's good to think of a way to remind each one when that happens -- without blaming, shaming, or complaining. Maybe by giving a nudge, a tap or a smile to the 'phubber'. These 'kind' reminders/gestures may elicit a more positive reaction...which is sure to benefit both parties involved.
This is a good topic to shine a light on. It seems like a simple discomfort, or too shallow a concern...but the effects on relationships can be compounding and can run deep.
Phubbing Self-Check Quiz
Phubbing Self-Check Quiz
Based on “Missing Presence: The Perception of 18-25 Years Old towards Parental Phubbing”
This quiz helps both parents and young adults reflect on their phone habits during family time. Answer honestly—there are no “wrong” answers, only patterns to notice.
Instructions: For each question, choose A, B, or C based on what feels most true for you. Tally your answers at the end.
Question 1 of 10
During family meals or bonding time, how often do you check your phone?
Question 2 of 10
When a family member is speaking to you, what’s your typical response?
Question 3 of 10
Why do you usually reach for your phone during family time?
Question 4 of 10
How would others describe your presence when you’re together?
Question 5 of 10
When someone points out that you’re on your phone during a conversation, how do you react?
Question 6 of 10
How often do family conversations feel “deep” or emotionally connected?
Question 7 of 10
Before bed or during quiet family evenings, where is your phone?
Question 8 of 10
How do you feel when you are phubbed by someone else?
Question 9 of 10
Has phone use affected your family’s emotional closeness?
Question 10 of 10
What’s one change you’re willing to try?
Healthy Presence
Your phone use stays balanced with family connection. You model mindful habits and protect meaningful moments. Keep it up—your consistency helps everyone in the household feel valued.
A key insight from the research: phubbing is rarely intentional, but its emotional impact is still real. Whether you’re a parent or a young adult, noticing the pattern is the first step toward healthier family dynamics.
Occasional Phubber
You’re not alone—research shows many parents and young adults fall here. Phone use for stress relief or work feels justified, but it can still create subtle emotional distance even when you don’t intend it. The good news: small, intentional changes (phone-free meals, pausing when someone speaks) make a real difference.
A key insight from the research: phubbing is rarely intentional, but its emotional impact is still real. Whether you’re a parent or a young adult, noticing the pattern is the first step toward healthier family dynamics.
The Phubber
Your phone use may be disrupting emotional connection in your family. The study’s findings suggest this pattern, even when normalized or unintentional, can leave others feeling ignored, distant, or less important than a screen. This isn’t about guilt—it’s about awareness. Starting with one phone-free habit a day can begin rebuilding presence.
A key insight from the research: phubbing is rarely intentional, but its emotional impact is still real. Whether you’re a parent or a young adult, noticing the pattern is the first step toward healthier family dynamics.